Today I had a conversation with my grandad about me doing this Ironman and how he thought it was great that I got my act together while I don’t have a coach. Since it’s a topic that has ‘haunted’ me throughout this year, let’s talk about it.
As mentioned in a previous post, the fantastic unvoluntarily decision to not get a coach is more based on the fact that nobody wanted to coach me *cries softly* rather then it was about me not wanting to get a coach. I am that ugly black little baby swan that no grown mother swan wants to have, something like that.
During this year I’ve heard many people give their opinion about me self-coaching. On the one hand you have the people who think it’s awesomely-crazy, on the other hand you have the people who think it’s awfully-crazy. I think it’s funny because those people represent me.
No but for real, I agree fully with both of the groups, simply because they are both right.
Is it awesome to self-coach? YES
Do I think I will get the maximum potential out of myself with self-coaching? NO
Sometimes all I want is an angry 40 year-old with marriage problems shouting at me furiously because I don’t swim like Michael Phelps, ride a bike like Lance Armstrong on drugs or run like an average Kenyan. But hey, you can’t have it all.
Besides the fact that I won’t reach my full potential with self coaching there is also another thing that makes self-coaching so hard: you need to find everything out by yourself.
See it like this, with a coach you’re like a robot: coach tells you what to do and when to do it and then you just do it, life has never been so easy.
When you self-coach it’s more like this:
- What do I need to do? (ask Google)
- How do I do that? (ask Google)
- When should I do that? (Google again)
- Encourage yourself to do it (YouTube videos for this one)
- Do it
- Reflect on what you just did
- If changes need to be made, what should you change? (Goooooooogle.)
When you have a coach, step 1,2,3 and 7 are totally for your coach. step 4 and 6 are shared responsibilities and step 5 is only for you. When you self coach you get the total VIP package which include all the steps with nobody to help you.
For this year I don’t know what would have been better, a coach or no coach. Ofcourse when you look at it from a race perspective it would have been better to have a coach because he would have helped me reach my maximal potential. However when you look at it from a life perspective I think self-coaching was the way to go because I learned a tremendous amount about who I am as a person and I don’t know if that would have happened if I would have had a coach.
In the end I’m just happy that I’m getting to the end of a 1 and a half year journey and that the end of that journey will be marked by the words: “YOU”RE AN IRONMAN!”
Be grateful for the help you get, but if you get no help be able to help yourself